Friday, May 28, 2010

Tribute to our little Rishi.

A small tribute my nephew Rishi who left us all on the may, 26th, 2010.
- Raj

Hey Rishi! Love you tonnes! Sorry that we had to let you go so early. We will for sure miss you in every event of the family! No matter how lesser span you would have lived, your memories will live as long as each one of us are alive!

We will take care of your mom, dad and Arunika. You take care of rest of the family who will rest in peace with you! There are quiet a few up there!

Krithi, Sudhakar and Arunika, our hearts are with you and we hope you all recover soon from this. These are moments of truth and makes us even more stronger!

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Friendships

I really am puzzled when this generation folks say he/she is best/true/great friend etc.,. I really don't get it! Can friendships be categorized? When you say someone a friend, he/she has done something to you that has had a long lasting impact on your life. Be it how trivial, an impact is impact! If this categorization is based on the frequency with which one has calls someone that way, then it is not right! I have friends all around the world from Erode to Europe, from Anna Nagar to America, From Bangalore to Bogota, and I don't even get to meet them or talk to them that often! So are they distant friends? No never! I know they wish me well and they want me succeed in what I do. After all this typing am still puzzled on what it means.. :)

Monday, May 10, 2010

Humanity. We still have it!

I knew the moment I completed reading this email, I had to send it! Quiet honestly I don't open my Gmail and never care to read any forwards there! But if I opened it today, I believe that I have to share it! Given the fact that I spend very less time with Nilaa and Leela these days by giving the excuse of too much work, here I'm after this publish, am gonna just take off!

Am not sure if this a story or a real incident, but for sure it touched my heart! We have the choice to make anyone's and everyone's second/minute/hour/day/month/year/life truly special and thats the very essence of this life we have! Lets treat everyone with respect and dignity no matter what caste/creed/color they belong to. Now go on and read........


At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves children with learning disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its

dedicated staff, he offered a question:

'When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does, is done with perfection.

Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do.

Where is the natural order of things in my son?'



The audience was stilled by the query.



The father continued. 'I believe that when a child like Shay, who was mentally and physically disabled comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.'

Then he told the following story:



Shay and I had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, 'Do you think they'll let me play?' I knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but as a fatherI also understood that if my son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.



I approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, 'We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.'



Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. I watched with a small tear in my eye and warmth in my heart. The boys saw my joy at my son being accepted.

In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three.

In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as I waved to him from the stands.

In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again.

Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.



At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game?

Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.



However, as Shay stepped up to the

plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact.

The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed.

The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay.

As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.



The game would now be over.

The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman.

Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.



Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates.

Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, 'Shay, run to first!

Run to first!'

Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base.

He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.



Everyone yelled, 'Run to second, run to second!'

Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base.

B y the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball . the smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team.

He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head.

Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.



All were screaming, 'Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay'



Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, 'Run to third!

Shay, run to third!'



As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, 'Shay, run home! Run home!'

Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team



'That day', said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, 'the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world'.



Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making me so happy, and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!

Friday, April 16, 2010

My Indian Electronic Media Yesterday! :X

The main worry for the media yesterday was this stupid IPL and the open power struggle between two men who care nothing about state of affairs in India.

Why is this happening? The media was least bothered about the failure that India faced because of failure to launch GSLV using homogeneously built cryogenic engines! Its a bloody 17 years of hard work by ISRO to meet that day and we are not even feeling sorry for that. Rather we are talking about a lady who has stake in an IPL franchise. Now, face it! What big deal? At the end of the day if not her, there would be someone else, what would it do to a common man?

For goodness sake, the Media, please start to be more responsible. Yes money is important, but there should be some morality!

And on IPL! When we face power shortages and hurt the farmers by having power cuts for almost 6 hours a day and we have flood lights for an evening match and simultaneously waste more power by virtue of millions watching it over televisions! And the government just says that its an individual body and we cannot interfere in that! BULL SHIT!

Saturday, March 6, 2010

Opportunity

Luck is when opportunity and effort/hard work meet!
Opportunity comes when one is there at the right place at the right time.
To be there at the right place at the right time, one needs right contacts.
To need right contact you need right attitude!

In essence there is nothing called as luck. Have the right attitude, put in your effort and wait for that right time for the right person to bring you the opportunity!

- Rajkumar Kandasamy!

Thursday, February 25, 2010

Small Steps!

Whoever wants to reach a distant goal must take many small steps.

- Helmut Schmidt

Always imagine yourself as a kid who has just began to walk. Its the small step that it takes that makes sure that he/she can walk through out the life!

Likewise, in life what matters is those small steps that we take to ensure that we have an harmonious life! For example a small step of quitting smoking/drinking etc, can make things better for you in the longer run. Now I know your devil mind, the next question will be, I don't smoke at all! Well my answer is that in itself is the small step!

Life is all about doing those small things like keeping your parents/children/friends happy! In today's world we forget these small steps but only think about large steps of buying a house, car etc. What is the point in having a car without your happy child?

Well I don't deny that its important. All am saying that in pursuit of what we think as greater happiness, we miss the smaller ones and eventually miss enjoying the greater one too.

- Rajkumar

Monday, February 22, 2010

Can we be Self Made?

No one in the world has defined what he will be.
Everyone we meet or any word that we hear, or any act that would inspire shapes us!

Don't ever say that am a "self-made" man!!! We are made by many like us, around us, even might be on the remotest part of the globe whom we would have not met, but whose thoughts we would know by media or books or whatever!

I stand up and say, am influenced by others!

Now, am I successful? I don't know, because success is a relative factor. Its like running race. If I run a race without anyone, am the winner. If I have somebody in the race and he does not run, then still am a winner!

No achievement is good/bad or small/great! If you feel content by not killing an ant, then you are a success! And the irony is, if you are to be killed by a lion, then you might as well be called as a failure! Thats life!

So, even success is influenced by others! Don't ever think that you don't need anybody in your life! We are not "Self-Made"

- Rajkumar Kandasamy

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Do we need a Revolution in India?


I don't know what we mean by revolution here!

I think the need of hour is a complete revamp of everything including our outlook towards everything. From Politics to corporate to entrepreneurs to self employed to job goers to job seekers to students to housewives to farmers everyone has to change!!!

There is no point in blaming a small section of the society.

The blood in politics and corporate of this country so much so corrupt that even their next generation cannot change it! Ambanis, Priyanka, Stalin for example! Am sure the moment they try that they are gone!

I believe the change should be systematic and a planned one to deliver with long term in mind. It can happen only slowly! In my view, the only way to do that is to educate people! Am sure everyone is capable of doing it!

+ If only am able to give education to 100 kids before I die, I think I have sowed the seeds!
+ If 10% each become IAS, IPS, Politicians, Doctors, Engineers, Govt employees, IFS, Farmers, Teachers and Advocates I think I have got the root.
+ Now these 100 do a 100 each that is the tree!
+ If those do a 100 each, the 3rd Generation from now will have the fruits and become seeds themselves!
+ If I become 10000 now, I think the fruits can be had in the 2nd generation itself!

But, these things have to be done at the right earnest! Be anonymous to those kids! Never expect any favors from them and that will set the right context! They will do so when they do a 100!

So the change is within us! Rather than expecting a Mahatma or a Nethaji, lets be the ones who make the difference! Look around you. You will find a lot of potential seeds!

Take ownership of the society that your Grand Children will live in and start sowing seeds!!!!

Stand up and Say I'm the change!

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Appreciate Ladies in your Lives!

I really was really ashamed that I never did this . Not that it was intentional, but it was ignorance!
Please go back to your homes and just say thank you! Be it your wife or mom or sister!
Please read through some of the sacrifices a lady makes to just keep us happy!
- Raj

Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;
Who is earning almost as much as you do;

One, who has dreams and aspirations just as
you have because she is as human as you are;

One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your
Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system
that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements

One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as
much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;

One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family ,name

One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen

One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook
food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more,
and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother,
a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as
to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;

One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;

Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply
Because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise

One, who can be late from work once in a while
when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;

One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important,
relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some
and trust her;

One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.

But not many guys understand this......


Please appreciate "HER"

Sunday, October 18, 2009

God Helps a person who helps himself...

Big Hats off to God who is silently managing the world even though lots of bad things are happening infront of his eyes

- A statement by a fellow community person on Orkut!



How a contradicting statement..... "there are a lot of bad things when God is around!" If God was there, how could this happen? Aren't we supposed to live peacefully if God has a purpose to create us all in the first place? Am not questioning the existence of God! Am just questioning the blind faith that put on power external to us! Why don't we take responsibility to our actions?


First believe in yourselves! Then believe in power beyond your control! I don't deny that there is something that external to us that has an effect on us. Call it time, luck, God, fate, butterfly effect what ever.... but be sure about the fact that your actions and deeds determine your future, your existence. For eg.,. I believe nature is the most powerful thing that controls us. When it unleashes a flood, my actions should be to run to high grounds or swim or hold a tree. If I don't do any of these, am sure to be erased.


So what ever be your ideology, believe in you! You are the least powerful creature in this universe, but you are the only one who is equipped with all the powers to control yourself! Don't miss your actions and blame God! Do it yourself! God helps a person who helps himself! Again.. here God can be anyone whom you think.. a idol, time, fate, luck, Nature etc.


- Raj